How To Write An Email Requesting Something (3 Easy Steps)

How do you write an email requesting something from an elite level performer/VIP in a way that will actually get a positive response?

The answer is surprisingly easy:

Shift your focus from a “me” perspective to a “you” perspective.

For example, years ago, I was hanging out with Charlie Hoehn, who’s worked with me and a lot of thought leaders like Tim Ferriss.

He told me how working behind the scenes has taught him how to work with these kinds of people.

Here’s the secret:

“Everyone wants something from you guys,” he said. “Now I know how to stand out. Just don’t ask for anything! Actually, add some value first.”

This “you first” approach is how I’ve been able to get the advice of best-selling authors, superstar CEOs, and all kinds of fascinating people.

Let’s take a look a look at that in action.

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How to write an email asking for something

Here’s a request email I received from a reader a while back. I called him within 60 seconds of reading it. See if you can find out why:

Request Email Ramit Got That Worked

The reader was polite, considerate of my needs, and sold me on the benefits of working with him.

Let’s break down the anatomy of this email, though, so I can show you exactly why it works.

Step 1: Focus on the recipient

Example of how you can be lavish with your compliments

Remember: Your message to the important person should be focused on THEM. That’s the key to any polite email that hooks the reader in.

The reader above did this with a snappy and eye-catching subject line: I want to work for you for free.

YES. You have my attention.

He goes on lavishing me with compliments while sharing an example of how my advice has helped him.

What do you notice about that? It’s a genuine compliment. He’s not giving me superficial niceties like, “Your blog is cool” or “Awesome videos!”

He says he has multiple ING Direct accounts, a Roth IRA, and an automated finance system set up because of me. THAT’S how you write an email asking for something.

Use the first one to two sentences to compliment the person you’re emailing and their work. Tell them how long you’ve been following them, what their advice has done for you, and/or your favorite post by them.

This will hook them into reading the rest of your email.

Step 2: Sell your benefits

Let’s face it, you’re trying to sell yourself here.

What benefits can you offer them? Why should they care?

Sometimes this comes in the form of a warm contact (more on this later).

If you know of a mutual connection, you should name drop so the person you’re talking to knows how you know them. They’ll be much more willing to work with you if you both know the same person.

For this email, my reader knew that I was looking for talented developers — so he sold me on that.

Entice Your VIP With the Skills You Have To Offer Example

Guess what? That immediately set him apart from 99.999% of the crowd.

You’re going to have to do your homework if you want to leverage this technique. You need to know your VIP’s pain points and how YOU can solve them.

Go deep. Get inside of their heads. See what solutions you can offer to their biggest problems.

Be like Don Corleone.

Don Corleone Saying I'll make him an offer he can't refuse gif

Notice that they’re ramping up their YouTube presence and you’re a video expert? Tell them that and do it for them.

Can you take their social media game to the next level? Sell them on all the followers and traffic you can generate for them.

If you can’t come up with a specific solution, show the person you’re emailing you have XYZ skill that’ll have ABC benefit for them.

Step 3: Make saying “no” impossible

Your last step is to anticipate any objections or concerns they might have.

My reader knew I had a few projects I wanted to get to but hadn’t made time for them yet.

How you can make saying no impossible example

And while I could tell he really wanted paid work, he tells me that he’d “be happy just for the opportunity to network and receive a little advice.”

This made me saying no to him impossible!

He respected the power dynamic. After all, he reached out to me asking for my time.

And he showed this by being proactive, offering up his phone number, and also providing samples of his work from his website.

Also, acknowledge how many emails they get by ending your email with this script:

“I understand you have tremendous demands on your time, and if you don’t have time to respond, no problem. But if you do, even a sentence would mean a lot to me.”

This is the key to writing an email asking for something. It gives VIPs an easy out if they’re too busy. Counterintuitively, it also boosts your response rate since you’re showing empathy toward their time demands.

Remember, this email from the developer worked so well, I called him within 60 seconds of receiving his message.

Follow these steps, and you can see the same results.

I then encourage you to use the Closing the Loop Technique to follow up with your VIP two weeks after you get your response. You can use the following script:

“Hey, you told me ABC. I dug in. I discovered you were right, and so I took your advice and I just wanted to thank you. I’ll keep you updated a couple of months from now about how the new XYZ is going.”

ACTION STEP: Contact your VIP

  1. Brainstorm ONE busy VIP you’d love to contact, then shoot them an email.
  2. In the comments below, share your story and the response you got.

FAQs About How To Write An Email Requesting Something 

How do you ask for something without sounding rude?

Instead of asking someone to do something, you can request that they consider helping you by saying, “I’d appreciate it if you could…” or “Thank you so much for…” or “Could you…?” Regardless of the extent of that person’s assistance in the past, it is always nice to be polite and show your gratitude.

What should I say in an email instead of please?

It is important to be nice and polite, but politeness can sometimes be overused. For example, the words “please” and “thank you” are polite, but they can become annoying if used too frequently. Other examples of polite words include “excuse me,” “I’m sorry,” and “goodbye.”

Why write an email to request something?

When writing an email to request something, it is important to be professional and courteous. There are several instances in which you might need to request something during your career, including for interviews with prospective employers, supervisors, and mentors as well as when seeking resources such as funding, additional research assistants, or equipment upgrades.

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  • Miss Thrifty

    Hi Ramit - thanks for the (as ever) interesting post, with some useful takeaways. You mentioned that you had a tremendous response of 90%. What was the response rate for "cold" emails, i.e. emails sent to people who didn't know you already? In my experience, familiarity / a previous or personal connection can trump the most beautifully-worded email. I would be interested to see how this was borne out in your response rate.

  • Radhika

    Very cool, Ramit. If you're asking for advice/asking a question, how would you be able to convey what's in it for them? (Of course, this is assuming the question isn't stupid and long.)

  • Nahyan Chowdhury

    Excellent email breakdown. Going to be using it as a template for a collaborative content piece re: sports/training for our startup. Thanks!

  • Ana

    Hi Ramit, I use your advice for emails (be super brief, mention how I will help them,close with a yes/no answer) and it helps me to get whatever I need at work. Now I am recognized at work as top negotiator! Thanks ;)

  • Bjorn Karlman

    Thanks for sharing the script. I am making some comparisons to the verbal script I used as a professional fundraiser for five years. Personalizing the message, as you rightly pointed out, is critical. The reasons big donors open up their pockets books are often not even linked to the amazing cause you are campaigning for, it has a lot more to do with whether the person trusts you and actually thinks you care about them and what they care about. Also, getting to the point is critical. I like that you were very specific about ways in which potential contributors could help. In fundraising I would often do better if I asked for a specific amount. If you just ask for "any help you can offer" you get a token gift or nothing.

  • Get Better Daily

    Ramit, Thank you for posting this and other golden advice. Using your techniques have helped obtain job interviews and business contacts I would not have dreamed of before. I look forwarding to using this advise in the future as well. Again thank you so much. -GBD

  • Michelle Keep

    I'm curious how to go about finding 'beginning-middle of the road' people. Everyone knows the big names, but it's a bit harder to find the 'doing okay, well known in my niche, but I still need a day job' names. I'm assuming a good percent of your readership won't be necessarily going after VIPs, but after people with in the middle. How do you (general you) find people in the range of positive response - that is to say people who will see benefit in a 500 person mailing list rather than 500,000 and are more likely to respond to requests?

    • Mel @ brokeGIRLrich

      Wouldn't those early/middle of the road folks likely be people you look up to? In the PF blogger circle names like J. Money, Mr. Money Mustache, etc. come to mind. They've got good, large followings, but if you're offering something you can do for them, I don't think they'd turn down your 500 person mailing list. I also believe that if you craft a strong enough argument, people will often reach a little lower than you think they would to help you out - but again, emphasizing on what you can do for them. In that, they see a person with potential, and what better time to connect with them than when they're a tiny unknown. And you can contact a heck of a lot of people using the contact section of their blogs.

  • Fey

    I once read something very similar about Mark Cuban. "And he’s got tens of thousands of unread e-mails. But he spends hours combing over his incoming every day. You get two sentences. Complain, ask for a favor and he hits delete. Deliver a straight up business proposition, he might not only respond, he might invest, Mark’s accessible." - I used this exact same tactic, he answered me within 45min. (same worked with Jason Fried, Derek Sivers and Noah Kagan)

  • Christine Mukai

    Thx! Simplicity and giving back to the other works almost every time. Win-win situation -if not immediately, the favors are usually returned.

  • Jesse Quist

    I recently stumbled onto your blog Ramit and I must say you've got some great content. I myself can attest to the effectiveness in offering value to people of influence. I used this method to secure a very important relationship recently. I also have a few questions for you but I will go through the rest of your blog to make sure they are not answered elsewhere.

  • Wan

    Thanks for the post, Ramit. I like the takeaway of thinking about what is in it for them rather than for us.

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  • Ravijot Singh

    Ramit, Thanks a lot for sharing your ideas. One of the things that works very well for me is that I first send the person whom I am approaching a list of 10 ideas to improve their business (with the subject line "10 ideas to improve ___business name___") This instantly catches the eye of the highly influential person and scrolling ideas take maximum of a minute. Generally, the person responds me back with a thank you and let me know if I can be of any help.

  • Kay

    Hey Ramit, thanks for this blog post. Information like this has helped me leapfrog my career at my new office job. One helpful tip though - readers who are coming from a minimum wage/below the poverty line background will be heartily offended by examples like this. For this demographic, there is always someone asking them to work for free. There are family/church who need tutoring and babysitting for the kids, there are employers who expect a min wage employee to stay late without pay to help set up the next shift, etc. Learning to say no to these requests, even when they're for a good cause, was key to getting out of poverty for me. The rest of the advice in general - how to approach someone, how to find out what they need and meet that need - has helped me land my current office job and I'm now starting to impress my new managers. Thanks!

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