Years ago, I needed to help a co-worker finish a project that:
- He was leading
- Would help my team
“Sure,” I said. “Just find me tomorrow and I’ll show you how to do it.”
Well, tomorrow came and went — and he NEVER found me.
Later, when he was asked about the project, he just sighed and said it didn’t get done. Then he turned to me and asked if I could help him later with the project.
“Dude, you were supposed to find me,” I told him sharply.
“I know,” he said. “I was busy. Sometimes if you want someone to do something, you have to go above and beyond.”
So I exploded.
“Listen, if you need my help, you need to find ME — not the other way around.”
Then he said something I’ll never forget. “Technically, you’re right. But you have to decide if you want to be right or if you want this to get done.”
So that got me thinking…is he right? Should my stake in the project have dictated how I should’ve handled the situation? Or was my friend just being a jackass?
I thought I knew the right answer, but I wanted to put it to my readers first: What would YOU have done in this situation?
The answers I got back were insightful and funny. I want to share a few of them with you today, and tell you what I think I should have done.
Co-worker help advice #1: Hindsight is a bitch
Co-worker help advice #2: Take the initiative
Bottom line: Sometimes to learn how to be a better co-worker you have to pick up some of the slack yourself.
Co-worker help advice #3: Set up boundaries
Co-worker help advice #4: He’s being a dick…but that’s not the point
Co-worker help advice #5: Tell him to fuck off
Though I’m sure there’s a more nuanced response out there….
What I should have done to help my co-worker
Like many readers said, hindsight can be incredibly enlightening. That’s why I would have taken measures to ensure a situation like this NEVER happened in the first place through habit building systems.
My favorite one? Using my calendar.
I practically dictate my day-to-day goals by one mantra: If it’s not on my calendar, it doesn’t exist.
It might seem anal retentive. It might seem absolutely crazy. But it WORKS.
Instead of letting my friend “come find me,” I would have scheduled time in my day to work with him. That way, when the notification came up on my calendar, I knew to go remind him that I was going to help him go through the project.
Don’t get me wrong: It was still incredibly frustrating to hear my friend say that I should have reached out to him, but in the end, my team benefitted from it and my company would have as well. Sometimes, your worst enemy is your ego. You have to leave it at the door if you want to be able to effectively accomplish your goals.
Advanced tip: You can set up weekly, monthly, and quarterly “to-dos” for things like reviewing your systems, planning an annual negotiation, or even checking in on your relationship.
Also be sure to check out my 15-minute video below where I break down the 5 most common productivity mistakes. It’ll help you be able to utilize the time you set aside to accomplish your goals effectively.
Build habits that last
If you’re like my co-worker, you also struggle to build solid habits and accomplish even the simplest of goals — which is why I put together the very best material on setting goals, creating habits that stick, and getting back on track if you ever fall off.
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