A month ago I sent out a blockbuster 4,355-word email on tactics I’ve used to write a New York Times bestseller, get hundreds of thousands of readers, and get into one of the top universities in the country. That email took me over 6 hours to write and, when I sent it out, I got thousands of emails back with questions and awesome feedback.
People said things like:
@ramit not to be a suck up, but I can’t believe you just sent this past earn1k email for free. best. advice. ever. thank you.
@ramit No bs. That was the single best email you have ever sent. Nobody can say Ramit doesn’t add value.
And so on.
Unfortunately, I’m not releasing the full email today. If you didn’t get it, sorry.
BUT I am going to share one of the lessons from that email today -– how I got into Stanford — and you can sign up here for more just like it, so you don’t miss out next time.
I have had the good fortune to do some pretty incredible things in the last few years. At 28 years old, I had the good fortune of writing a blog with 300,000 readers/month, writing an instant New York Times bestseller, and a few years ago, getting into Stanford and winning over $100,000 of undergraduate and graduate scholarships.
Today, I want to share some of the ways that I was able to accomplish these things, and hopefully you’ll be able to apply some of these techniques in your freelance business.
I’ll include specific techniques that allowed me to leapfrog some of my peers and do ridiculous things like getting invited to speak on persuasion in Japan, getting written up in the WSJ at age 22, or getting a highly paid college/summer internship with one phone call.
Below, you’ll see why this is directly relevant to you earning more money.
But what you’ll see may surprise you.
I am not the smartest person. My friends got way better GPAs than I did. I am terrible at math (in fact, I was the only person in my high-school AP math class to fail my AP test…yes, I got a 2). But I am pretty good a few things, which I want to share with you.
First, I don’t come from a wealthy family. My parents are immigrants and we’re very middle class. I say this up front because some people tend to dismiss others who achieve cool things by saying, “Oh, mommy and daddy just bought them [whatever].” Yes, that’s true sometimes (especially here in Manhattan), but the people who lob that insult usually use it as a crutch for not doing interesting things themselves. Get a life.
It’s possible to do amazing things no matter how old you are or how much money you have. But there are some unconventional approaches that can dramatically change how fast you achieve these things.
(This isn’t just about getting into Stanford. It’s about getting into any exclusive organization/university/job/whatever).
Ok, so I went to a public high school in northern California. My friends and I joked that our class, the Class of 2000, was the most competitive..but also the least attractive. Seriously, all the hot people were one year above of us or one year below us.
Anyway, we had a lot of smart people in my class. So when it was time to apply for college, lots of people were set on top-tier schools like Stanford, Harvard, Yale, etc. But then an amazing thing happened.
When the first round of college admissions came in, and some people got in and others didn’t, many of the people who didn’t get in changed their attitudes overnight, saying, “Whatever…I didn’t really want to go there anyway.” I found this really surprising, since I had planned to get rejected from my dream school, Stanford, anyway. (Most of my friends had a higher GPA than I did).
Since I had already assumed that I was going to get rejected, I’d already made plans for what I’d do to get in, despite their rejection. I was going to send them recent updates to my coursework, a few recent press clippings I’d done, and some updates on the business/job I was doing in high school. In short, getting a “no” was only the first step.
When I got in, it was an extremely pleasant surprise. But it was also incredibly interesting to watch the attitudes of some of my classmates — classmates who’d dreamed about attending a particular school — change overnight since they’d been rejected. They really took it personally. For me, I knew that I was a number, and that when I got rejected, I’d simply need to convince them why I deserved to get in.
As for how I got in myself, there were a few key things:
The first “no” is where the discussion starts.
When aiming for a large goal — like a college application, new job, or new city — always visualize what would happen if you SUCCEED (e.g., get admitted) vs. what would happen if you FAIL (e.g., get rejected).
Do this before you get the results, which is an emotional time. I saw people throw away their dream school simply because they got rejected. Read that last sentence again.
Doesn’t it sound ridiculous? OF COURSE you give up when you get rejected.
Well, sometimes it’s true, and society certainly tells us to suck it up and move on. But when it’s some committee making a decision, you don’t have to let that fly. Plan ahead for what you’ll do if you succeed or fail — it will help you stay focused when times get tough.
[More examples and techniques in the original email]
So what are you going to do now?
Are you going to feel inspired for the next 10 minutes and then forget all about it and go back to saving money on $3 lattes?
You can use this same lesson to achieve anything great, whether it’s landing your dream job, getting into a top university school, or even networking with your biggest role model.
If you want to ACTUALLY achieve something great, treat rejection as a normal step in the process. Expect it. Manage it. Take action and the next time you get shot down, remember that means you’re just getting started.
If turning your existing skills into side income would help you, then I recommend you check out my Earn1K course.
In the course, you don’t just learn how to earn more money. You learn deep psychological mindset changes about human behavior, marketing, pricing, and advanced communication techniques. You can apply these everywhere.
If you sign up and let me know you’re interested, I’ll send you lessons like the “Briefcase Technique” that I used to generate tens of thousands of dollars, along with other video lessons, advanced techniques, scripts, and tools to earn more money.
You can sign up here (free).
P.S. – Leave a comment and let me know ONE thing you can apply this “Failure Expectation” technique to. I want to hear your ideas.