How to conquer fear and take control of your life

Ramit Sethi

When I started blogging, this is what my blog looked like:

IWT circa 2004. I am the best web designer ever.

I actually had 2 years of posts on one page — no “Next Page” button or anything — because I didn’t know how to set up archives. And if I’m honest, the writing wasn’t great.

So every day, I would sit in my dorm room and write, thinking the same things ANYONE thinks when they’re trying something new:

  • “Is anyone going go to read this?” (For the first 6 months, the answer was NO. See for yourself. Go read the comments from August-December 2004. There are almost zero.)
  • “Ugh, is this really worth the time?”
  • “I’m never going to get as much traffic as [other bigger blog]”

The code word I used in my head was UNFAIR. It’s unfair that my site doesn’t get as much traffic. It’s unfair that that big blogger isn’t linking to me. It’s unfair that I have such interesting ideas, but nobody is listening.


Now I look back and it all seems so ridiculous. Some of my early blog posts really were horrible. A lot of those bigger sites WERE better than mine.

But at least I got started. And over time, I got much better.

The key here is focusing on what you can control.

I couldn’t do anything about those other sites, but I could work on writing every single week for mine.

By the way, focusing on what you can control isn’t just about starting a blog.

It’s easy to complain about the economy, but have you started investing even $50/month? (Like this guy, who’s going to hate his life in 15 years.)

Anyone can complain about the inequity of our education system, but have you checked out a book from the library to improve your business skills? Or emailed someone to take them out to coffee?

(Do you feel out of control? Watch this quick video.)

When I talk to my successful friends, the truth is they almost never started with a grand vision of the future or a huge reservoir of self confidence. They did their homework, but most importantly, they just got started.

This idea — that you should focus on the things you can control, and let the other things go — is one of the central beliefs I learned from my mentors. One of the things I love doing is inviting them from all over the world to share their own “Success Triggers” — and then recording these never-before-seen insights on video for you.

Today, I want to introduce you to Kris Carr.

Kris is the New York Times bestselling author of “Crazy Sexy Kitchen” and “Crazy Sexy Diet.” She’s created programs and guides for Crazy Sexy Wellness, the company she founded — which helps people by motivating them, sharing resources, and leading them to a better, healthier life.

Yet only a few years ago, Kris had no idea she’d be a wellness expert and entrepreneur.

After being diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer, she decided to focus on changing things she could control — and went from knowing almost nothing about business or wellness to creating an amazing life (and a successful business) for herself in circumstances that would paralyze most people.

Want to know what every single top performer I’ve interviewed in Brain Trust (including CEOs, athletes, and best-selling authors) ALL have in common? Simple. It’s habits. Successful people don’t just catch a lucky break and coast — they systematically identify and integrate winning habits into their lives, day in and day out, for years.

Ramit’s Brain Trust is now closed indefinitely.

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