Ultimate Guide to Social Skills — Part 6

How to Be More Likeable


How can you become more likeable?

If you were to ask someone, they’d probably say “smile more!” That's good advice, but there is another simple technique just as powerful (if not more) -- eye contact.

It seems so obvious, but most people overlook it. They don’t consciously use eye contact, which is a shame because it is one of the most valuable tools you have at your disposal. With a half-second look, you can convey anything from confidence to insecurity to friendliness.

Eye contact is a key piece of my S.E.T.H.I. technique, but I want to give you a special eye contact challenge you can use to quickly improve how you use eye contact.

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The Eye Contact Challenge

Yes, I'm asking you to test your eye contact. Notice I’m not saying “Get better at it!” I want you to see the difference when you try different types of eye contact. When done correctly, it can build rapport and intimacy. When done poorly, it can make you look like a serial killer. (We cover the difference in the clip below.)


Here's how to do it: Try holding eye contact for a second longer than you normally would. Practice on your waiter, barista, or the person at the checkout counter.

  • How do you feel?
  • How does the other person react?

Learning to pay attention to the subtle yet powerful differences can completely change how people respond to you in social situations.


Likeability hacks: hold eye contact for a second longer than you normally would. Practice on your barista today.
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What social skills advice actually works?


In this 15-minute clip, body language expert Olivia Fox-Cabane and I talk about why most social skills advice is garbage and what actually works.

You'll learn:

  • A common, habitual problem women tend to have that makes them seem overeager, insecure, and nervous (you could be doing this and not even know) (2:16)
  • The “microexpressions” that betray you in just 17 milliseconds giving away what’s actually going on inside your head (5:52)
  • Two easy ways to instantly become more present in conversations (even when you’re bored or tired) (7:00 )
  • Why you can’t completely control your body language — and what to do instead (8:15)
  • The single biggest inhibitor to charisma and how to correct it (12:40)
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Learn about the biggest inhibitor to having charisma and how to overcome it

How to Be More Likeable | Ultimate Guide to Social Skills – Part 6