Ultimate Guide to Social Skills — Part 3

How to Make Small Talk

Do you know someone who can strike up a conversation with everybody they meet? Their conversations look effortless, they often get free drinks at the bar, and they make best friends any time they go out.

How do these people do it? Are they some type of social mutants? Or are they just “naturals” when it comes to talking to people?

They may be gifted, but they don’t have some coveted secret. Instead, they’ve just mastered the art of small talk: that oh-so-elusive skill that many people claim to hate.

But listen, small talk doesn’t have to be icky or boring “How’s the weather?” chats. You can actually use small talk to dive into much deeper conversations. It can be the basis for great relationships and making new friends.

Below we will cover the basics of improving small talk (including what NOT to do).

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How to be interesting

The key to small talk is being interesting. If you're not interesting, you can actually see people's eyes glaze over.

Whenever I used to talk at a party or in work meetings, people would give me blank stares and completely check out. For a long time I had no idea what was going on, but I eventually discovered the mistake I was making.

Check out this short video clip, where I break down exactly what I was doing wrong.

Live small talk teardowns and word-for-word scripts for you to try out

Alright, now that we’ve laid the foundation, let’s dive into the details.

In the video, I explain how small talk really works, give you some simple tips to master it, and even include a LIVE teardown of someone making small talk. You can apply the insights from this conversation to the next one you have and make yours a success.

Check out these small talk hacks:

More specifically:

  • How do you make small talk (1:00)
  • How to take the active role in the conversation to help the conversation flow in the direction you want it to (1:47)
  • How to keep the conversation exciting with an actual teardown interview with one of our IWT students (2:32)

How do you keep the conversation
going smoothly?

We’ve all been in conversations that suddenly fizzle out. One minute you’re standing there chatting away. The next you’re awkwardly looking around and frantically searching for something clever to say...but the words just won’t come.

Does this happen to you?

It doesn't have to. With a few easy tricks, you can keep any conversation rolling along at just the right pace -- without asking too many questions or talking too much.

Let me show you how in this 2-minute video:

How to skillfully exit a boring conversation

As fun as it is to talk to new people, eventually every conversation must come to an end.

But for a lot of people, it can be hard to escape. Especially if you’ve followed the tips from above, you’ll have people that never want you to go away.

Rather than just awkwardly backing away from them or making lame excuses that you have to go, here’s how you can skillfully end any conversation -- and still keep good rapport with the person you’re speaking to.

It’s a simple tip, but it’s ultra handy, especially if you ever find yourself in the midst of a weird conversation and want out.

Watch it here:

We cover:

  • The two things in any conversation that make you want to leave (0:30)
  • What to do when the conversation is coming to a natural close (1:01)
  • What happens when someone is monopolizing your time and won't let you go (1:53)

Now it's your turn

Just watching these videos will help improve your social skills. But if you really want to get good, you've got to practice. That's why I want to give you some word-for-word scripts you can practice with.

These conversation-starting scripts will help you easily strike up a conversation with anyone you meet and leave a lasting impression.

Learn how to how to introduce yourself and make a lasting impression.

How to Make Small Talk | Ultimate Guide to Social Skills – Part 3