If you had a crystal ball that would show you your life in 20 years, would you look in it?
“Ramit, you are getting better looking every year”
You might be surprised to know that we all have a crystal ball exactly like this.
Recently, when I went to my 10-year Stanford reunion, I hung out with an older friend. While we were grabbing drinks, I asked him what was different about his 20-year reunion vs. how people had been at their 10-year reunion.
He laid out the differences between people at their 10-year and 20-year reunion:
- At 10 years, you started to see certain people’s careers taking off, while others were still looking for what they really wanted to do. At 20 years, the gap between the two was stark.
- At 10 years out of college, people were highly career focused. Some people were beginning to have children, but not the majority. At 20 years, most had begun to focus on their families. (In later ages, at least in Indian culture, lots of people begin to turn to spirituality.)
- 10 years out was all about the future, the promise of what was coming. At 20 years, as my friend put it, “you kinda know where you stand. It is what it is.”
Do you see what I’m saying?
You have the crystal ball of your future right in front of you — people who are 10 to 20 years older than you.
As much as we like to believe we’re different than everyone else, odds are, we will end up very much like the people who came before us.
This makes people uncomfortable. We like to believe we’re special snowflakes: ‘Oh hell no, I’m never going to end up like HIM…I’m not going to work a boring 9-5 job, get buried in mortgage debt with 2.5 kids and a white picket-fence, and be happy with a few beers on the weekend.”
I’m different! I’m special!
Are you, though?
It’s one thing to say, “I don’t want to be like that guy Fred who does the same job as me and has been doing it for 40 years.”
It’s easy to say what you DON’T want to do.
It’s harder to take unconventional choices — sometimes risky choices — to end up with a Rich Life.
Doesn’t mean you have to quit your job and start a life coaching business or doggie daycare, you nut jobs.
But you can give yourself the option of amazing, unconventional choices as long as you have a Tripod of Stability, or a few things that are always stable, in your life.
Let me give you a couple of simple examples:
We all have morning routines we do every day, day after day. Does your routine prime you for a productive, positive day or drag you down with stress and complaints?
We’re all going to eat dinner. Do you have a system in place to make sure you’re eating something delicious and healthy, or do you wait until you’re starving and end up grabbing a bag of chips?
Simple, but easy to forget. And the results are massive — positive or negative.
We’re going to talk about this over the next few days. And we’re going to start off with one of the most conventional choices around — your job.
Yes, YOUR JOB!
97% of us have a job, but it’s so obvious and conventional that we forgot how big an impact it has on our lives. Plus, there’s a difference between a job and a dream job — something you wake up to excitedly, walk into the office knowing you’re the best at what you do, and make a huge impact.
Not to mention being paid what you deserve.
Is your job just a job? One where, when someone asks you what you do, you look down and say, “I work in marketing” (‘boring’).
Or do you have a dream job that makes you jump out of bed every morning? Where people are amazed that someone even has that job?
Your job is one of the easiest areas where you can make small but unconventional changes that have a dramatic result on the quality and freedom in your life.
It’s become unpopular to talk about jobs, since everyone thinks they’re the next Steve Jobs. People even spit as they talk about “9-5” jobs. Give me a break.
In fact, as I’ll show you, finding your dream job can actually open up new opportunities that you wouldn’t have had otherwise.
So, to start, just comment below and let me know:
- 10 years from now, what does AMAZING SUCCESS look like?
- Also, 10 years from now, what would a MEDIOCRE LIFE look like? Think about the people you know who are 10 years older than you. Remember, my not-special snowflakes, unless you do something different, you will end up in their situation.
Just comment below.
This is the year of MORE. I’m going to show you how to get more in every part of your life. And now we’re talking about your job.