“Why don’t they respect me?”
November 18th, 2013 - 124 Comments
When people don’t respect you, you start to pick up on subtle little signs.
Years ago, in my early 20s, I noticed a few of them.
- People would say, “What makes YOU think you can teach people how to be rich? Are you rich?”
- When I would be out with my friends and we’d talk to girls, we’d say, “Hi, my name is R—” (they would turn around and walk away).
Think about how big of a blow that can be to someone. For most guys, being successful with their careers and sexuality is central to their identity.
And what about when it happens to women?
Every woman can share a story about being at work, making an insightful point, and having a manager say, “That’s a nice idea” and move on to the next person…who repeats the same thing and gets all the credit!
Is it that you’re young? Is it that you’re a woman? What can you do about it?
I thought about this when I got a question from one of my readers, Lori:
“I’m a 26 year old who looks 20 in scrubs and work with surgeons and doctors all day. In the hospital ladder I have more authority over nurses working there for 30 years. How can I get them to respect me and stop telling me how to do my job or questioning my decisions?”
Maybe you look young. Maybe you ARE young. Maybe you’re a young woman in a male-dominated industry.
If you can’t get the respect of the people around you — if they just think of you as a hot girl, or a little “rough around the edges” — it can be impossible to change their impression of you.
Along the way, we’ve all encountered this.
So how did you beat it?
How have you gained the respect of the people around you? It can be your coworkers…or your parents…or even your friends.
Share your story below.
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