When we’re not in college anymore
20 Comments- Get free updates of new posts here
One of my friends pointed something out that I thought was pretty interesting: Things change once you graduate and start earning money, but sometimes our mindset doesn’t change as fast.
A little while ago, a bunch of us got invited to a birthday dinner for one of my friends. Someone had planned it and invited us, and of course we all checked out the restaurant URL in the email. “Oh man,” a few of us said, because the entrees were about $25-$30 each.
To put it in context, that’s expensive, but not that expensive for a nice place in the Bay Area. The thing was, we all just thought, “that’s a little expensive for a birthday dinner.” Why? It wasn’t a rational objection, since we do dinners out like that once in a while. I guess for me, it was the thought that, ‘hey, this could be expensive for a lot of people that are obligated to come because it’s a birthday dinner.’
Another friend and I were talking about this, and she gave me a different perspective. “We have to realize that people earn money now,” she said. “We’re not college students any more. It’s ok to spend money on some things.”
I hadn’t thought of it that way before. Things have changed–most of my friends have great jobs and $30 or $40 isn’t a huge hardship. Yet a bunch of us (myself included) are still in the college mindset sometimes. That’s good for a lot of things, but not everything.
But after she pointed this out, I thought, hey, she’s right–it’s ok for a birthday dinner. On the other hand, who cares what I think? It’s not really my perspective that’s important, but the person’s for whom a $40 dinner isn’t feasible. So I’m trying to reconcile these 2 ideas.
Of course, my friend isn’t saying that we should do these dinners every day. But her point–that when you’re earning money, it’s ok to pay for certain things–is something I agree on, and it took her pointing it out to really realize it.
I’ll write more on this later, but this occurred to me yesterday when I paid a little extra for something I wanted done just right.
OK, who here has a terrible boss? Today, I want to talk about them, because if you have one, you ...Read More
Some of the best memories are ones that sucked at the time, but looking back, you’re glad you did ...Read More