When did you get used to settling?
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Who here has settled for something? Your job? Been taken advantage of when you bought a car?
Your husband or wife?
The word “settle” is a totally loaded term in our culture.
For example, how many women have friends who say, “Don’t settle! It’s better to be alone than to be unhappy with someone.” We accept that as true…but can anyone identify the invisible scripts in that advice?
We settle for a job. When you were 22, just out of school, would you have imagined you’d be working where you are today? What did you dream your job would be 10, 15, 20 years later? Did you settle? Why?
We settle on our health. (“I could never look like that…plus I really love pasta, ugh.”)
Don’t BS me. We’ve ALL settled.
It’s natural to settle for certain things. Guess what? I don’t care about finding the world’s best soap, so I’ll settle for the one on sale at the store.
But I HATE settling for the important things in life.
I HATE the idea of looking back and realizing — “Ugh, why did I stay in that relationship for so long?” Or, “If I had just quit that job 2 years ago, I would have been in a WAY better place.” You ever talk to someone who’s in their 50s or 60s? By that time, the thing they “settled” for has petrified into regret.
I won’t allow that to happen to you.
So today, we’re talking about settling. And later this week, I’m going to show you how to tackle one of those Big Win areas of life so you AREN’T settling any more.
TODAY: Tell me one area of your life where you’ve settled. It could be as minor as that so-so restaurant (“The line was too long at the place I really wanted to go to”) or as huge as the person you married.
I want to hear your story. Tell me about:
- Something in your life that you’ve settled with.
- Why do you think you’ve settled?
Let me know in the comments below.
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