I love crazy nutcases who email me 5,000 times/day asking, “HEY RAMIT. WHAT SYSTEM DO YOU USE FOR STAYING IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE??” As if some software is going to do all the work for them.
I built a really simple system for staying in touch with people in different cities. It uses a magical tool called “email.” I like it because it’s easy and it works with less than 5 minutes/month of maintenance.
Here’s how it works:
Here’s a closer look
What you’ll notice:
- When I find out where someone lives, like a real creep, I just type “L” then the city, and Gmail auto-tags it. Takes less than 2 seconds
- When I visit Austin, or Hong Kong, or LA, I go to the tag, look at all the people, and decide who I want to meet
- I use Rapportive so I can automatically learn more about them in less than 2 seconds. A side benefit is you can see if they’re attractive or not. Oops, did I write that to this email list of over 200,000 people??
- Sometimes, I’m only “internet friends” with them…but being in someone’s city (“Hi, I’ll be in town for 3 days”) is an awesome way to meet people in person
Why I’m telling you this
This is the Year of Unapologetic Mastery. When you look at someone who’s a master at their craft, you’ll notice that they’ve always built routines for the ordinary parts of life, so they can focus on what they’re best at.
For example, Steve Jobs wore turtlenecks every day so he didn’t have to worry about clothes. And professional athletes stock their fridges with vegetables and lean protein so they don’t have to decide between cake and celery.
These “micro systems” take a tiny amount of time to create, but you reap the rewards forever.
Very rarely does someone say “I’m going to improve myself” and the clouds part, the angels sing, and the heavens award you magical and unending willpower. Success is a series of small, systematic steps towards becoming better every day. And when others give up, you keep going.
Notice in the example above, we all have a friend who’s amazing at keeping in touch with everyone. In the past, it would’ve been easy to say, “Wow, I wonder how he does it” or even imply that he was a better person because he kept in touch with everyone.
Now you know. He just used a small system and improved it day by day.
I’ve been building these systems year after year — to earn more, find a dream job, improve social skills, become more focused — and I want to give them to you so you can live a rich life. This year, we’ll improve ourselves from the inside out (including yesterday, where we learned the psychological frameworks to stop feeling guilty).
Leave a comment below. What’s one thing I could help you with? Don’t just say “starting a business,” tell me the specifics, like, “Ramit, I have 3 ideas but I’m not sure how to tell which one will work. How would I know?”
I read every response personally, and I’ll let you know if I can help in tomorrow’s post.
By the way, I’ve mentioned that this year is about unapologetic mastery, and one of my core requirements is expecting you to take action in exchange for the strategies, frameworks, and tactics I provide.
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