Comments on: Attention annoying hypocrites: Stop being judgmental about your friends’ money habits http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/ Personal finance blog for college students, recent graduates and everyone else -- including entrepreneurship -- for getting rich. Featured in the Wall Street Journal and New York Times. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 18:46:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Kate http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-125339 Kate Mon, 21 Jun 2010 03:59:04 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-125339 You are so right on. When I first started reading your blog I was pleasantly surprised how different it was from the other "personal finance" blogs which do nothing but wag their fingers in my face on how dare I spend on more than the bare necessities and how my desire to have a life of better quality than "bare minimum" clearly means I am an incurable morally corrupt spendthrift. This post hits the nail on the head - 1) consider the circumstance of someone's life before blasting them on their spending habits, 2) look in the mirror first and 3) judging people is just plain unhealthy and spreads bad energy. Moreover, I always had that response naturally when I met someone who had nicer lifestyle/spent more/earned more, I thought "what did you do to get here" and "how can I get there too". I never understood people's jealousy of someone's wedding or Mercedes or shoes when it would clearly feel much nicer if they figured out ways on how to get what THEY want out of life instead of hating others for having more. I think its great that we have rich people who spend on things they want and need and use their skills to increase their success. Jealousy and hatred for others is simply pointless. My aim has always been learning to be more successful so I can benefit myself and others, have the life that I want, spend as much as i want on things I care about, and make a positive difference in whatever areas I can. Kudos to you for excellent writing :-) You are so right on.
When I first started reading your blog I was pleasantly surprised how different it was from the other “personal finance” blogs which do nothing but wag their fingers in my face on how dare I spend on more than the bare necessities and how my desire to have a life of better quality than “bare minimum” clearly means I am an incurable morally corrupt spendthrift. This post hits the nail on the head – 1) consider the circumstance of someone’s life before blasting them on their spending habits, 2) look in the mirror first and 3) judging people is just plain unhealthy and spreads bad energy. Moreover, I always had that response naturally when I met someone who had nicer lifestyle/spent more/earned more, I thought “what did you do to get here” and “how can I get there too”. I never understood people’s jealousy of someone’s wedding or Mercedes or shoes when it would clearly feel much nicer if they figured out ways on how to get what THEY want out of life instead of hating others for having more. I think its great that we have rich people who spend on things they want and need and use their skills to increase their success. Jealousy and hatred for others is simply pointless. My aim has always been learning to be more successful so I can benefit myself and others, have the life that I want, spend as much as i want on things I care about, and make a positive difference in whatever areas I can. Kudos to you for excellent writing :-)

]]> By: Enlightenment & Awesome Ninja Money Skills (What’s that in Your Eye?) http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-125187 Enlightenment & Awesome Ninja Money Skills (What’s that in Your Eye?) Mon, 14 Jun 2010 15:58:04 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-125187 [...] which is very hard to type, but an insightful read most every time) recently wrote about how we’re all hypocrites when it comes to spending. He’s [...] [...] which is very hard to type, but an insightful read most every time) recently wrote about how we’re all hypocrites when it comes to spending. He’s [...]

]]> By: Enlightenment & Frugality (What’s that in Your Eye?) http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-125186 Enlightenment & Frugality (What’s that in Your Eye?) Mon, 14 Jun 2010 15:57:02 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-125186 [...] which is very hard to type, but an insightful read most every time) recently wrote about how we’re all hypocrites when it comes to spending. He’s [...] [...] which is very hard to type, but an insightful read most every time) recently wrote about how we’re all hypocrites when it comes to spending. He’s [...]

]]> By: Allan http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-125163 Allan Sat, 12 Jun 2010 16:51:18 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-125163 I know, personally, reading that someone spends more on clothes than I do on rent in a year makes me feel...well poor. (See the key word there...'feel') I rarely worry about it much, except when it's clearly a case in which the spender could have saved a lot of money and received the SAME product or service. I think it all comes down to "I wish I could get 1/10 of that to put away." My boss (I am currently the only remaining employee) occasionally mentions how he, at one time or another, made or lost $10k on a particular stock swing, or how much his Apple shares are up. I don't think he realizes how callous that sounds when he pays a low hourly wage with no benefits at all. I'm only there until I find something better. I spent a total of about $250 on my wedding and maybe $1000 on my honeymoon, because no one was interested in coming, we have few friends and our families suck. But it saved us money for starting on our own! (The best wedding present was a Wal-Mart card :( ) I know, personally, reading that someone spends more on clothes than I do on rent in a year makes me feel…well poor. (See the key word there…’feel’) I rarely worry about it much, except when it’s clearly a case in which the spender could have saved a lot of money and received the SAME product or service.

I think it all comes down to “I wish I could get 1/10 of that to put away.” My boss (I am currently the only remaining employee) occasionally mentions how he, at one time or another, made or lost $10k on a particular stock swing, or how much his Apple shares are up. I don’t think he realizes how callous that sounds when he pays a low hourly wage with no benefits at all. I’m only there until I find something better.

I spent a total of about $250 on my wedding and maybe $1000 on my honeymoon, because no one was interested in coming, we have few friends and our families suck. But it saved us money for starting on our own! (The best wedding present was a Wal-Mart card :( )

]]> By: Azam Zaki http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-125061 Azam Zaki Wed, 09 Jun 2010 06:41:20 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-125061 everybody has their own weakness when it comes to spend money. I like to eat and i spent lots of money to eat good food. there is no need to judge others because they spend on thing they love. everybody has their own weakness when it comes to spend money. I like to eat and i spent lots of money to eat good food. there is no need to judge others because they spend on thing they love.

]]> By: While watching Steve Jobs yesterday… | I Will Teach You To Be Rich http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-124982 While watching Steve Jobs yesterday… | I Will Teach You To Be Rich Tue, 08 Jun 2010 06:06:14 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-124982 [...] See more about judging others’ spending. [...] [...] See more about judging others’ spending. [...]

]]> By: YOUR spending is bad, but mine is good | I Will Teach You To Be Rich http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-124981 YOUR spending is bad, but mine is good | I Will Teach You To Be Rich Tue, 08 Jun 2010 06:02:11 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-124981 [...] [Update] The largest post is up here: Attention annoying hypocrites: Stop being judgmental about your friends’ money habits [...] [...] [Update] The largest post is up here: Attention annoying hypocrites: Stop being judgmental about your friends’ money habits [...]

]]> By: Atención Hipócritas | Economía Personal http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-124953 Atención Hipócritas | Economía Personal Fri, 04 Jun 2010 15:32:24 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-124953 [...] Me topé con que el mismo día en que publiqué “7 Errores que tus Amigos Cometen en sus Finanzas Personales“, él publicó un artículo sobre la misma línea de pensamiento llamado “Atención Hipócritas Fastidiosos: Dejen de Juzgar los Hábitos Financieros de sus Amigos“. [...] [...] Me topé con que el mismo día en que publiqué “7 Errores que tus Amigos Cometen en sus Finanzas Personales“, él publicó un artículo sobre la misma línea de pensamiento llamado “Atención Hipócritas Fastidiosos: Dejen de Juzgar los Hábitos Financieros de sus Amigos“. [...]

]]> By: Financial Samurai http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-124927 Financial Samurai Thu, 03 Jun 2010 02:58:55 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-124927 Damn that was a long post! Do as I say, not as I do! Best, Sam Damn that was a long post!

Do as I say, not as I do!

Best,

Sam

]]> By: Joe M http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/judgmental-money-spending/#comment-124912 Joe M Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:00:00 +0000 http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/?p=5552#comment-124912 Awesome post! "The problem is that Americans hate people who write about how they spend money on anything that’s not directly focused on the bare necessities of living." Could not agree more. I think all the frugal hints in PF blogs are great when you are trying to get your house in order. However, once you get things in order, it's actually OK to spend money on things that bring you pleasure. I find the tendency for us to compare against one another very uncomfortable, though I know we all do it. A number of times we've had family make snide comments about "how lucky" we have been. I always came away feeling insulted that no one recognized how hard we worked, so we don't really discuss our finances with others any longer. Awesome post!

“The problem is that Americans hate people who write about how they spend money on anything that’s not directly focused on the bare necessities of living.”

Could not agree more. I think all the frugal hints in PF blogs are great when you are trying to get your house in order. However, once you get things in order, it’s actually OK to spend money on things that bring you pleasure.

I find the tendency for us to compare against one another very uncomfortable, though I know we all do it. A number of times we’ve had family make snide comments about “how lucky” we have been. I always came away feeling insulted that no one recognized how hard we worked, so we don’t really discuss our finances with others any longer.

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