How to get unstuck (new 1-hour mini-course with BJ Fogg)

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You know when you go to the gym for 3 months straight, then miss a day (“I’ll go tomorrow…”) …then you end up skipping the next 3 weeks?

Why do we stop doing things we actually want to do?

Jerry Seinfeld knew why — and he knew the secret of momentum:

He told me to get a big wall calendar that has a whole year on one page and hang it on a prominent wall. The next step was to get a big red magic marker.

He said for each day that I do my task of writing, I get to put a big red X over that day. “After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain.”

“Don’t break the chain,” he said again for emphasis.

One of the most valuable things I ever learned was how to keep building MOMENTUM — in business, in relationships, and in our personal areas like health and learning.

This came from one of my mentors, BJ Fogg, who runs the Persuasive Technology Lab at Stanford.

He taught me to always run two projects in parallel. “That way, if one gets stalled, you can always switch to the other one.”

But this was just one of the many things he taught me. And recently, I invited BJ back to interview him about his best advice.

In particular, we talked about human behavior — how it works, how to change it, and how to get un-stuck. Think about it: If you master your own behavior, could you earn more money? Be more productive? Have more energy every morning?

Answer: Yes.

And we go deep into the tactics, including the actual words to use in emails…the phrases we use to persuade ourselves to do something (even if we don’t want to)…and more.

In this interview, BJ Fogg and I dig deep into behavior change strategies we’ve never covered before.

You’ll learn:

  • The “pre-persuasion” elements you can embed in your environment to persuade yourself to stay focused
  • Why we’re lazy — and how to work around our inherent laziness
  • Your “self-persuasion toolbox”: When to use baby steps vs. systems vs. willpower
  • Why saying “It can’t hurt” is actually wrong — and how failures have an invisible cost
  • How to break apart the successes of other people and find winning tactics you can use in your own life

This interview is part of my “Brain Trust” program, where each month I unveil a new interview with my personal mentors, advisors, and confidants each month. Each month, you get access to these private interviews, plus a community of hundreds of ambitious people to hold you accountable every day.

For a sneak peek of my BJ Fogg interview, check this out:

March is “Get Unstuck Month” in my Brain Trust program, and we’ll be using BJ Fogg’s latest research and methods to make real, lasting changes in our lives.

If you have even ONE area where you want to get “unstuck,” I invite you to join my Brain Trust program.

 

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  1. good one Ramit – almost an epidemic I’d say

    life happens and we get deterred, and over time complacency sets in and favors the “new norm”. I see this all the time. I used to see this in the corporate environment, with clients, vendors, in personal life with friends and family, myself, and now in students, exam candidates and even professionals interested in propelling their careers forward.

    that said, for those few who have the internal desire/motivation, getting back to form a habit (30 straight days of practice) is certainly doable with some conscious thinking and action.

    for others, we have folks like Fogg to help. looks like an interesting proposition that can help many

  2. BJ Fogg!

    He’s fantastic.

    The preview looks great – Valuable advice on NOT nagging family members and building a system around an initial motivation wave.

    Can’t wait for this. Thanks Ramit.

  3. Being in the debt consolidation and hearing your first paragraph… you hit it right on the nose. “Why do we stop doing things we actually want to do?” This is the motive to how I help people. I can’t wait to learn more detailed information on why we’re lazy and the self persuasion toolbox. Looks like this will be yet another successful adventure with you… Thanks for everything Ramit.

  4. Good post. My day job is sales and momentum is paramount to success. People have deadlines to meet and if you build a solution that fits their needs you will win the business. I also notice very similar things in dating and relationships. So much of this persuasion is based on emotional momentum.

  5. Ramit, just curious…are you still running in the mornings?

  6. Ramit,
    Thanks. I might have missed it but have you used the same kind of logic and experimentation to that aspect of your life as you have making money and being successful?

    If so, can you write about that some time or would you be willing to do an interview about it? I write a running site and think your perspective would be a breath of fresh air for runners who always hear from runners talking about the same workouts, strategies, etc. I think your perspective and voice would be something a lot of people would find fascinating and beneficial.

  7. Ramit! Awesome blog, man. Almost done reading your book. Great interview – I really like that part of “not breaking the chain;” very applicable, great advice. By the way, I’ve already gotten 2 raises since I started reading your blog a few months ago, thanks to your direction! Thanks, man.

    Also, I started my own blog a little while back, and I wanted to nominate you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award, because – well, you’re very inspiring and stuff. You’re awesome! I never would have been getting paid this much without your posts.

    Thanks Ramit!

  8. Everyone gets stuck at times. I like the idea of having at least two projects going simultaneously so that if one gets too hard, you can switch to the other and continue to feel productive. Most likely, you’ll be able to get back to the first project in a day or two and won’t feel so stuck anymore. Good post and looking forward to the full interview.

  9. Seinfeld gets the concept of doing one thing, now I need to work on figuring out my one thing

  10. I don’t know why I continue to read this. The time I spend reading this I should use to being productive. all Ramit does is write COPY, copy to sell us his next product, or up sell us for his next course. He spews’ this Seinfeld story likes it “breaking news” this story came out when Seinfeld FIRST came on the air over 15 years ago, but we eat it up. And we cant leave his website because any article that we “think” might actually pertain to something of relevance we have to sign up AGAIN just to see articles we’ve already signed up for.

    And does his products work? Well google a review and you will not find ONE, not ONE review. This site has been online for almost 10 years and there is NOT one review of ANY of his thousand dollar products. He could have least wrote a fake one since he writes so much copy.

    • Ha. 3 quick things:

      1. I tell my students to get offline and stop writing on blogs in order to live a rich life. That’s why they don’t waste their time writing reviews on internet marketing blogs where bottom-feeders dwell.

      2. Still, there are many reviews online, which you could find if you took 15 seconds to search. If you want to find some, please see any of these:

      Oh, and you can also find 1,000+ comments from IWT readers on how my material helped them here, here, and from just a few months ago, here.

      3. If you think I sell too much, please feel free to leave. I give away 98% of my material absolutely free, and I always aim for my free material to be better than anyone else’s paid stuff. I have more documented success stories than virtually anyone else — so clearly, something is working for certain people. But obviously I’m not for everyone, so if my material isn’t right for you, I wouldn’t want to waste your time!

      Thanks for the comment.

  11. The one thing I will give you is that you are very good with replies via this site or thru email.

    But back to the reason I started this initial discussion. I don’t understand why we have to keep entering our emails in order to receive the next “free” thing you make available. Even if we have already logging in and sign up in order to access or download a book or video we have to enter our email again. Can’t something be don’t about that. THERE EVEN A BUTTON to join another newsletter while I’m already logged in and making a comment ON YOUR SITE. smh

    As for your reply to y original comment I will hand it to you saying you encourage your “students” to get offline and stop writing internet reviews is CLASSIC, that was a pure stroke of genius and to follow up with internet reviews was a little condescending. Not only that but the reviews are from your own site. Its sorta like when Amazon says that the kindle is the best selling tablet ever, source amazon website…a little bias and don’t ya think…