How to find love using psychology
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If there is one thing I have learned in my decades on this earth, it is this: Beware of a woman trying to set you up with her friend.
“She’s really nice and she has a great job and–” ZzzZzzz
THAT IS NOT WHAT GUYS CARE ABOUT!
Would I set up a female friend by saying, “You should meet him! He really loves Star Trek, and in particular he strongly supports the view of the Prime Directive when applied to–” (suddenly I notice she has suffocated herself with a plastic bag).
Today, we’re going to talk about using IWT principles to find LOVE. That’s right, people. You came to the man with no heart to discover how to make yours even bigger.
A friend sent this picture to me from an unnamed city. Love is already happening:
People are now matching on Tinder because their shared interest is “Ramit Sethi’s IWT.”
My life is officially complete. I give my blessing for my socially awkward readers to
flood the internet and find each other. You’re welcome. More on instagram.com/ramit.
We’ve talked a lot about how systems and psychology can improve finances, your career, even your inner psychology.
But love? That’s all from the heart!! Puppies and cuddles, Ramit!! How DARE you suggest being strategic about love? That’s so…UNROMANTIC!!
You’re delusional. Love marriages are a relatively recent phenomenon — something most people in America don’t realize.
I recently found two unusual and outstanding articles on strategically finding love, and I wanted to share them with you:
- How to hack OKCupid: A PhD student used data to hack OKCupid and found the woman of his dreams. He created 12 fake OkCupid accounts and harvested 6 million questions and answers from 20,000 women all over the country.
- Hacking the hyperlinked heart: A journalist reverse engineered her dating profile by creating male profiles and analyzing how popular females interacted. Her “super-profile” ended up landing her a ton of responses — including her now husband.
Now, I want to open it up to you.
How would you use IWT principles to find a great relationship partner? (Or, if you’re already in a relationship, how can you use them to have an even better relationship?)
Think creatively about testing, psychology, disqualification, language…all the things we cover in exhaustive detail on IWT.
By the way, this isn’t about manipulating or tricking anyone. It’s about using the ethical principles we’ve learned to be the very best you can be, and share that message with the right people.
Let’s see what everyone says in the comments below.
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