How to create explosive growth in all areas of your life
Yesterday, we talked about “inspiration junkies” who look for pretty pictures and inspirational quotes instead of actually doing anything to improve their situation.
Today, we’re going to go deeper. All I ask is that you take ONE action after reading this post. Otherwise, I swear I’m going to take a black marker, write words like “energy,” “spirit,” and “courage” on a heavy piece of cardboard and shove it up…..BREATHE RAMIT. BREATHE.
OK. If you look at some of the comments on yesterday’s post, you might notice something peculiar. Here are 3:
“My biggest goal is to get a higher level, much better paying job in the NYC metro area. All my friends and family are there, and I really miss the culture and lifestyle.”
“I have developed a huge amount of blocking scripts. I am now late on delivering my thesis work, which is all I need to complete the degree. I find myself slacking off on Reddit or just browsing the internet worthlessly instead of getting pen to paper and pushing out my writing.”
“So my big dream is to find part-time work, even something I could do from home or with a flexible schedule, something I enjoy doing and which is meaningful and allows me to spend time with my family and my hobbies.”
What do you notice? I’VE COVERED ALL OF THIS FOR YEARS!
I have the exact answers to their exact questions, totally free. If they want even more, I’ve created premium programs with step-by-step instructions and scripts — all with a 100% money-back guarantee.
So why are they still asking about these things?
KEY TAKEAWAY #1: For many of us, we talk about our problems for years — including the things we think we need to fix them — even when the answer is right in front of us!!
You know it and I know it. We deliberate about a bad relationship when all the signs are there. We complain about our boss and, years later, look back and say “I should have left years before.” But we publicly SAY things like, “I just don’t know…”
By the way, I don’t blame them and they’re not bad people. This is human nature. But I do ask that you hold yourself accountable and stop wandering around looking for the magical answer to fall from the sky.
To show you what I mean, look at another comment I got:
“Straight up trying to find time to get everything done. My entire life is overwhelming. I have bitten off more than I can chew and the To Do list is starting to cause paralysis. But I’m breaking it down into baby steps and doing things in prioritized order…I’d just like to get up one day and not feel like I was perpetually behind the 8 ball.”
Again, I have entire courses around productivity. (I’m not even linking to them here, because that’s not the point.) I also have hours of free interviews, and log post after blog post. There are also plenty of other people with excellent techniques. But none of it matters until she’s ready to take action.
KEY TAKEAWAY #2: You can search for magical tactics, inspirational quotes, or daily motivation — but none of it will work because the answer to the biggest problem in your life is almost certainly not EXTERNAL. It’s INTERNAL.
If you’ve been wanting to lose 20lbs, or get your productivity under control, or earn more, the tactics are out there. The “inspirational quotes” are flooding the internet. If you were serious, wouldn’t you have already found them with a little research?
Put another way, it’s not NORMAL to have the same problem for years. Not for top performers.
That leads us to the idea that maybe the answer is not some super-secret tactic. Maybe none of the tactics matter until you change internally. That means you focus on improving YOURSELF and YOUR PROCESS.
And today, we’re going to talk about your process, because few others do.
(It’s easy to give you Tactic1, Tactic2, Tactic3…none of which you’ll use.)
Instead, I want you to look internally. What do you do every morning when you wake up? How can you get more done in 5 DAYS than all of last month…like this?
How Olympians Train
Years ago, I became fascinated with perfecting my process — everything from sleeping to writing. So when I ran across a great article on Olympic athletes, How Olympians Stay Motivated, I knew I wanted to share it with you:
“Many Olympic winter sports involve feats of incredible dynamism and gravity-defying stunts, making it seem as though the life of an elite winter athlete would be a nonstop adventure full of half-pipes and triple Axels. But what audiences don’t see are the grueling practice sessions that involve hours of repetitive, muscle-straining movements.
Full days of training consisted of four hours of practicing compulsory figures, then two hours of free skating, then running through the short program and the long program, and then … repeat. ‘The same thing, day in and day out,’ she said.
‘I would spend four hours a day going in circles and trying to perfect the compulsory figures, and no one ever saw those but the judges,’ Hamill told me. ‘They were so complicated and so hard to perfect.’”
Like most people, I used to be fascinated with RESULTS more than anything else:
- “Oh wow, look at which college she got into.”
- “Damn, he made HOW MUCH MONEY last year?”
- “He benched 225lbs 10 times? Jeez.”
This is normal — we look at others’ results and compare ourselves to them. But it’s also an amateur thing to do, because you’re only looking at the END RESULT — not the process it took to get there.
Put another way, people occasionally plagiarize my material. I laugh (then call my lawyer), because they can copy the words, but they’ll never know the process that went into it. That’s the real secret sauce.
Over time, while I was still fascinated with the results — I came to be obsessed with the PROCESS they took to get those results.
Why watching fitness videos only gets you 5% of the way
Let’s say you want to get more muscle (or lose weight). You might see videos of guys on YouTube deadlifting hundreds of pounds. AMAZING! But if you STOP at the results, you learn very little.
But if you study their process — what their workout is, how they train, how they rest — eventually you can come to understand those extraordinary results, too. That’s exactly how I deadlifted 320lbs.
One of the “secrets” behind the impressive results of IWT students (here, here, here, here, here, here and here) is that we focus on perfecting our process in order to get the remarkable results that others envy. Others focus on results only (just like I did), but rarely go the extra step to understand and repeatedly practice the specific strategic, tactical, and psychological steps that masters take.
What happens to them?
At some point, they look at the RESULT, make a half-hearted attempt to do it (“I’m going to buckle down and send out 100 resumes!”), and when they inevitably fail, they blame everyone else: “The economy sucks, I hate Republicans/Democrats, it’s all about who you know.”
YES, life is unfair. But one of the best things I ever realized was that results matter, but the process matters even more.
DO YOU SEE HOW INSPIRATIONAL BOARDS ARE NOWHERE IN THIS CALCULATION? The people looking for their daily motivation fix are not the people seriously looking to take action. They want to double-click an image on their phone, feel good for a second, and go back to doing things the way they’ve always done.
The people who are truly serious know that motivation fades and inspiration is nebulous. They work on PERFECTING THEIR PROCESS.
He focused on perfecting his process – Now look at his results
So when, years ago, I met someone who focused solely on perfecting his process, I had a feeling we would become friends.
Derek Halpern runs Social Triggers, a site about using lessons from neuroscience, psychology, and conversion rate optimization to get more traffic, leads and sales for your business.
Years ago, I met Derek over a phone call.
Now, I get introduced to a lot of people, and they almost always have the same questions: How did you grow your email list? How do I sell a high-priced course? What SEO hacks can you tell me??? It’s all about RESULTS. I’ve literally never been asked questions like: “What kind of mental barriers did you encounter when you had 1,000 students…5,000 students…or 20,000 students?”
Derek was totally different: He told me he just wanted to focus on writing amazing material until he grew his list to ~10,000 people. He had nothing to sell, and didn’t plan on it until he built a community that was “wow”ed by every email he wrote. He knew this would take over a year.
And it’s paid off for him. People in his market have no idea where he came from, but suddenly he has one of the most popular blogs on psychology and sales out there.
That’s why I invited Derek into my studio for an extended 1-on-1 interview on mastery, inner control, and psychology.
In our session:
- We talk about mastery in all forms. This is about more than just growing a website. This interview is about how to create explosive growth in all areas of your life: business, career, personal, productivity.
- Derek and I both love psychology, so we go deep into the psychology of success, failure, perfectionism, and more — including psych studies.
Here’s just a sample of what you’ll learn (THIS IS ALL ABOUT PROCESS!):
- How to secure private lunches with VIPs in your company
- How to deal with a micromanaging boss who stands in the way of your goals
- A simple strategy for overcoming perfectionism and beating procrastination
- How to use “pacers” in your professional and personal life to accelerate your growth
- The hidden psychology behind the most common procrastination excuses
- How to use a “learning-implementation loop” to make steady progress on your goals
- And much more
This interview is ONLY available to members of my Brain Trust program. Whether you join or not, I know you’ll enjoy the video — and I want you to think about how you can start improving your process in different parts of your life, from productivity to eating to your relationships.
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