How I helped a friend find her Dream Job…TWICE
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Good lord, it seems like Dream Job stuff is really hitting a nerve. Thanks for the hundreds of people who submitted a questions on Monday’s post. I responded to a bunch of people, and I’ve also been emailing as many of the commenters as I can, but I can’t respond to everyone, as I have a busy life eating chicken wings and challenging my friends to drinking contests.
So, if you didn’t see my video on “Ramit’s 80/20 Guide to Finding a Dream Job,” I put together a special presentation for you — now with hundreds of comments. You can opt-in to see the video here.
Heh, and this week, while I was eating chicken and sending out tons of emails to people about their jobs questions, it made me think about a friend of mine who I helped find to find her Dream Job.
It’s actually a funny story, since she found her Dream Job TWICE.
So this girl had gone to grad school, but midway through, she realized she hated it (and had already racked up thousands of dollars in debt). We used to g-chat a lot during the day (for her, this was during classes where she was dreadfully bored), so she asked me to help her figure out what to do.
She didn’t think there was anything else she could do, and she had no ideas about what her Dream Job would look like. “Uh, of course you don’t know what else you would do,” I told her. “You’ve never done any real research!”
She agreed to follow my advice. And since she was a friend, I told her I’d of course help her…but she HAD TO: (1) do what I said, no arguments, and (2) agree to document every step of the process. “Otherwise you can figure this out on your own,” I told her.
She told me she would do whatever it took. With a gleam in my eye, I realized it was a good thing this girl and I were only platonic friends, or god knows what kind of depravity would have occurred.
Anyway, over the next few months, I helped her…
- Recognize, manage, and conquer her “Invisible Scripts” that were holding her back (examples: “I don’t have any skills that people would hire me for” + “I don’t know what my Dream Job would really be…”)
- Create a TESTING METHODOLOGY to find out exactly what she was interested in, rather than waiting to “find her passion”
- Taught her exactly how to use “networking” productively — including what specific questions to ask — to drive her job hunt
- Gave her the best reading materials, and showed her which stupid career advice to avoid
- Focused her time on the right things, instead of pointlessly updating her resume or firing it off into “Black Hole Hell”
Within months, she found a job at a top financial firm you’ve all heard about.
A few years later, she’d mastered the job and decided to make a move out of finance and into another industry (this is typical of top performers). So she came back to me to do it again.
We got back to work — same agreement, do what I say, let’s test it, take notes, and I will help you find your next Dream Job.
This time, I helped her find and negotiate a job in a top technology company.
Here’s the funny thing. She now makes multiple six figures a year (read that again…not a typo)…back from when she was a bitter grad student doing something she hated, with no idea about what she could possibly do.
She’s in her 20s.
Besides me being THRILLED for her that she’s maximizing her potential, the best part is that she (1) followed what I said, and (2) documented every step of it.
But my friend made me realize that some of my biggest wins have come from helping people 1-on-1.
Obviously, I want to share as much of my material with you as possible. For example, in that 46-minute video, I made it available to you free, because I want to help you find your Dream Job without barriers. And my entire blog and business is about helping as many of the right people as possible.
Unfortunately, I’m kinda stuck. I can’t help everyone — I don’t have the time or resources to do that. But if I could pick people who have a GOOD CHANCE of being successful, and help them get from an “A” to an “A+,” it would be well worth my time.
For example, my friend swore she would follow every step I said — and she did (or I would have killed her). Even when I pushed her out of her comfort zone, she trusted me enough to follow my system. And as a result, she found two incredible Dream Jobs.
On the other hand, when I deal with people who won’t follow my instructions, or expect everything for free, I get really jaded and don’t want to work with them at all.
So, question for you:
How many of you are there who would be interested in something more personal, like 1-on-1 coaching?
Would it be worth it to do in some form?
I’m not sure what approach to take here — I want to help as many of you as possible, and since my goal has always been to be the “Voice of 10,000″ (and recently the “Voice of 1 Million,” I’m not sure what this would look like.
But I also know that my best results come from working 1-on-1 with people who are serious about making a change.
Not only can I usually get my friends pretty good results (e.g., my friends average $10,000 in a salary increase after working with me), but I can turn around and share what I did to all of you guys.
Here’s the thing: Realistically, it’s tough to do 1-on-1 for more than a few people, plus I rarely do consulting.
So, if you ARE interested in some form of 1-on-1 interaction, email me and tell me why you’d want this. What would it mean to you? How would you use it to find your Dream Job? How can you guarantee that you’d follow through?
Email me directly: email@example.com. Use “I’m interested in 1-on-1 coaching” as your email subject line so I don’t miss your email.
I’ll let you know in a day or two what I find out. Right now, I have no idea.
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