“He’s passively waiting for his dream career to happen”
Why are some people able to find their dream jobs…when so many others are not?
A lot of you know about Earn1k, the course I created to help you earn more money on the side.
But I’ve never publicly mentioned that I also run an accompanying program called Beyond1k, which provides live weekly calls, a Mastermind group, and ongoing support for accountability and time management. (Some interesting stories behind it…like how I made a $300,000 mistake creating it…but I’ll share those later.)
Anyway, I got this email from one of my Beyond1k students, Candy, yesterday.
I had to share this with you since I just got back from vacation in SoCal; apologies in advance if it sounds ‘insane’. I met up with some friends of mine I hadn’t seen in 4+ years down in LA on Saturday. One of them is an amateur photographer but takes great photos with the little equipment he has. I asked him if he’s tried to market his photography skills to people and he said, I shit you not, “I do not have the self-entrepreneurship in me.” What is he doing right now? He quit his job with a logistics company he worked with the past 5 years; cashed out his 401k; and is now back in school taking interior design hoping that’ll help him move to a better fulfilling career.
I had that moment I wanted to yell at him in your same mannerism but I held my tongue, and went, “Ah-huh.”
Look, I know I’ve been a bad student and a lazy ass one at that with B1K. But talking to my friend about me trying to do freelancing on top of working two jobs and him passively waiting for his dream creative career to happen made me realize how much value this program you’ve offered is to people. I was really thinking of canceling my membership before the end of this month but I’m definitely finishing the quarter. I don’t want to be part of “them” anymore.
Ramit, if I could give you a hug, I would. But I don’t think my fiance would enjoy me hugging the guy whose voice he finds annoying
Aside from Candy’s fiance calling my voice annoying, which made me feel pity for this young man’s severe hearing impairment, I found this note very insightful.
- “He’s passively waiting for his dream career to happen.” How many of us do this? We say, “If only I had more time/money/ideas/freedom, then I could REALLY do what I want to do.” Which is, of course, complete bullshit. To the wishful dreamer, there’s always something on the horizon to wait for instead of doing something today. There’s always another excuse. You don’t wait for something to happen, you get off your ass and do it.
- “I don’t have the self-entrepreneurship in me.” Notice how passive that is. Someone who really wanted a dream job (and had the ability and willingness to pursue it) would re-frame the question: How do I think more entrepreneurially? Who do I need to talk to? What books/courses should I take? What have other successful people done?
- Perhaps most interesting of all is the fact that Candy is so motivated by what NOT to do. Honestly, this was what motivated me early on, too: seeing some really smart friends go to work for cog-in-a-wheel jobs that they didn’t love, then fast-forwarding 10 or 20 years to see older friends who were stuck. I never wanted to be like that, so I took steps to ensure that I wasn’t. There’s nothing special about me. There’s nothing special about any of the people I know who have dream jobs…except that they looked ahead to see what they wanted…and didn’t want.
(One more sidenote: Anyone notice how the amateur photographer decided he needed a credential to really make it? That is one of the biggest mistakes people make when pursuing their passions: thinking that a mythical credential will REALLY help them, when actually getting experience is almost always a better move. People don’t like hearing this, though, because it reduces the magic of the silver bullet of credentials and degrees.)
Finding a dream job doesn’t have to be a 100% deep plunge where you quit your job today. I’m all about setting smaller goals and starting off gradually. You can start by thinking entrepreneurially, figuring out which of your skills can be turned into side income, and then testing your ideas. It may sound like a confusing black box, but you can only illuminate it with action.
Whether you sign up for my Earn1k free preview course (which shows you, step-by-step, how to do this), or buy some great books on doing what you love, or even just take someone out to lunch and pick their brain, I hope you can make the switch from passively waiting for your dreams…to actively pursuing them.
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