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Finding balance: How high-powered women can have it all

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A few months ago, I got in trouble with some of my readers. In my Ramit’s Brain Trust program, where I interview one of my mentors/advisors/confidants and share the video with the group every month.

When I asked who else they wanted me to interview, I started getting a bunch of notes from Brain Trust members asking why I hadn’t interviewed any women yet.

They had a point. In fact, there are so many top-performing women in RBT, there’s even a sub-group called “Women of RBT.” (It’s so private, even I’m not allowed in.)

It took me about 5 seconds to know who I wanted to interview. I definitely wanted to interview Pam Slim, whom I introduced a couple months ago. And Gretchen Rubin, whom I introduced in April.

And I knew I also had to bring Elizabeth Weil into studio. Not just because I was looking to fill a quota of women, but because she’s one of the best examples of top performers that I know.

I’ve known Elizabeth Weil since 7th grade. And she’s mastered the balance of high performance and creativity.

A little bit about her:

  • She’s a partner at a top-tier venture-capital firm in Silicon Valley. Before that, she was an executive at Twitter

  • On the side, she runs Paperwheel, a letterpress (high-end stationery) company

  • Oh, btw, she’s also an ultra-marathon runner

  • And she also has a family and stays in touch with her friends all the time.

HOW?? How does she do it all?

That’s exactly what I wanted to ask her when I brought her into my studio for an hour-long interview. We talked about it all — the tradeoffs, where to cut corners, how to stay in touch when you’re pulled in different directions by different people.

Truthfully, Elizabeth admitted that she doesn’t have it all figured out. But she does have a few “tricks of the trade” she uses to stay on top of these demands…and ways to recharge when it becomes overwhelming.

SPECIAL NOTE: This interview will be especially interesting to the 100,000+ women in the IWT community, but it’s not just for women. If you’re curious about how top-performing women navigate the field of traditionally male-oriented industries and manage it all, we cover it in this interview.

Unfortunately, it’s become politically incorrect to talk about the differences between men and women — even though we clearly think and act differently. So in this interview, you’ll see Elizabeth and I try to unravel how to highlight our strengths and figure out the best way to live a rich life.

Does that mean making sure you’re home at 7pm every night to eat dinner with your family?

Or setting an example for your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse by putting your work away and spending quality time together?

Or maybe temporarily saying, “Work is the most important thing right now,” and committing to being the best at your job?

What are the unique challenges that women have to think about…(that men don’t)?

Crafting a balance between your career and personal life can be one of the most challenging parts of being a top performer, especially when everyone wants a piece of you.

How do you create an environment where you can succeed — and stay involved in the lives of the people you care about?

To answer this question, I invited Elizabeth Weil into my Brain Trust studio to ask her how she does it. This is a rare opportunity to see a top performer pull back the veil and talk candidly about work-life balance, careers, and the demands of being a top performer.

Here’s a sneak peek:

In the full interview, you’ll learn:

  • What to do when you feel “stuck” in your job and know you need to get out

  • How to attract healthy relationships with people who will bring the best out in you — both personally and professionally

  • The unique challenges that ambitious women have in male-dominated industries

  • A simple system to keep in touch with the people you care about (never let a relationship go “cold” again)

  • A simple way to say “no” to things that you don’t want to do without feeling guilty

This interview is part of my Brain Trust program, where each month I unveil a new interview with my personal mentors, advisors, and confidants each month. Each month, you get access to these private interviews, plus a community of 1,000+ top IWT students. Find 1-on-1 accountability partners, meet other IWT readers in your city, and stop consuming information…and start taking action.

The Brain Trust program is closed right now. If you’re interested in getting on the wait list and getting the full interview, add yourself here:

Ramit’s Brain Trust


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2 years 8 months ago

Men and women don’t think any differently than a man and another man. If we did, then women would not appreciate literature from a male perspective and men would not be able to connect with anything from a woman’s point of view. PC is PC for a reason. It keeps an entire group from being marginalized because someone else decided that we think differently or act differently or any other number of differents. Yes, there are different challenges women face, but that is only because people out there still believe men and woman are so different when they really aren’t.

2 years 8 months ago
That’s the way I see it too. I don’t think that business places should adapt to women – but adapt to everyone’s needs. For example, I don’t think serving your family is something feminine. Business environments should be more family-friendly, not mother-friendly. In my country there’s a strong mother friendly trend instead of a parent friendly trend. Instead of making it easier for mothers, it’s making things worse. For example, the mother leave got longer, but father leave is like 2 weeks long in comparison. Instead of making it easier for a woman (so that she can take care of… Read more »
2 years 8 months ago

Lastly, “having it all” sounds extremely tiring. Woman+having it all. You need to have it all or… you’re not good enough. I don’t want to have ALL. I don’t want to be a business person 8 am to 6 pm and marathon runner for the next two hours and a wife for the next four. I wanna me ME, mostly, and have ME time. For me work/life balance is about having a rest and recharging my bateries while I’m trying to do something meaningful, but in moderation.

2 years 8 months ago

Thank you Doris. You put so elegantly what I wanted to say, but couldn’t find the right words. I rarely see a feature of an entrepreneur or business person who does such and such AND is a father! Thank you for speaking out on this and hopefully our daughters will have an easier time in the business world than women today do.

2 years 8 months ago

OK, after learning about all that Elizabeth packs in a single day, I will never, ever complain of being tired again! :). And love that the interview is packed with lots of great tips, while keeping it at just under 6 minutes. much appreciated! Thanks.

Yanni Raz
2 years 8 months ago
Doris, I agree with many of your points. I think businesses should adapt to everyones needs and know how to adjust for any individual given their circumstance and along the lines of how that individual chooses to live their life. Nowadays families can be constructed in many ways and the husband can be taking care of the children as the educated mother is busy working. Luckily I think workplace environments will be able to accommodate for these situations more and more, now that working can be more mobile for us entrepreneurs, or business people. Also, I would like to take… Read more »
2 years 8 months ago
Thanks Yanni! I appreciate the most your longest paragraph about Elizabeth. Nobody says that, you know? Still I know it’s true. I’m coming out from a moderate depression and I realize it was as hard for me to do the little I was doing (eg. get up and take a shower and maybe cook a dinner and that’s it, the whole day) as it is hard for executive managers that are used to their routine. If I’m chaotic and stressed out I can’t squeeze as much in a day as people who are in balance. So now I try to… Read more »
2 years 8 months ago
Doris, you’re unfairly comparing yourself to Elizabeth. She probably had to go through many hurdles and changes to get to the point where she is today, just as anyone else. You have the potential to do the same, but you have to realize that it takes time for those changes to happen if you’re not already used to those things already. And if you don’t want all of those things, that’s okay too! That doesn’t mean we cannot still look up to those people who “have it all”. Plus, your perspective of “having it all” is extremely one-sided. Some people… Read more »
2 years 8 months ago
I love your post. Thank you for all your comments. I’d love to be surrounded by people thinking the way you think, that every lifestyle choice is alright as long as it’s not harmful to anyone. I guess I’m oversensitive having been surrounded by all these people who think they have “superior” lifestyles. People on the Internet and in my environment are generally haters. If someone is one size bigger than them, they’d be like: “Why aren’t you on a diet? Why aren’t you running every day? Oh, I know, you’re LAZY”. Makes me laugh because I’m quite slender and… Read more »
Tim Mobley
2 years 8 months ago

Does she have children? It is one thing to “have a family” but a completely different ball game if a woman has children and tries to balance career, family and children’s activities etc. This becomes a huge drain on her time usually…

jack pefla
2 years 8 months ago

You put so elegantly what I wanted to say

2 years 8 months ago

I have never understood why our culture always puts men ahead of women. Such that when women succeed they have to go through so much more to get there. It’s too much of a male-centric mentality. Business is a meritocracy, whoever does the best job should get rewarded.
2 years 8 months ago
I just stumbled onto your blog for the first time and I am so glad I found this post. My wife and I are all about partnership in our marriage and I love that she wants to have a career. The insight that could be had regarding “how to say no to things you don’t want to do” I will definitely be sharing with her. She is incredibly talented, and capable; which leads to lots of people asking her to be involved. A side effect of this is that she is often over committed. When will the Brain trust be… Read more »
2 years 8 months ago

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Robyn @ Living the Simple Life Now
If you’re going to “have it all,” I think it is crucially important to pick a mate (if you choose to have one) that supports you in that endeavour. I think that’ one great benefit of women choosing to marry later in life. These are conversation you need to have BEFORE you get married. If you marry someone who expects you to keep the house clean, take primary responsibility for the kids, etc, then you are not going to be able to achieve things like Elizabeth. If you want to, you’re going to be pretty unhappy in your marriage. I… Read more »