In the Roman empire, when a successful general returned from the battle, after having won, the whole village received him with plaudits and vitos.

There was a civil servant whose work was consisting of remaining next to the general… and of saying to him to the ear ” REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE HUMAN ” … sometimes (me included) people believe we are God, and we have to be humble and don’t “¿loose the north?” (i don’t know if this phrasal verb is ok).

Kisses

My parents are both in their mid-40s, they have a far-from-paid mortgage, lawyer debts, and a very bad opinion of investing. I tried to make them figure out, but my father says: “If I can pay the house before I retire, I’ll see then what I’ll do”.

If I’d lose everything, my parents couldn’t afford the burden I’d become. This is not the case for everybody, but I can not afford to lose everything.

Anyway, I won’t

Also, don’t be a person who constantly thinks, “I can’t do this”. You’re setting yourself up for failure before you even start. I come from a financially unstable background, and my family was poor growing up, but i’m not letting that stop me.

However, like you have mentioned elsewhere, many times we fool ourselves into
thinking we understand something, if only because it brings with it a certain
amount of comfort.

I’m simply emphasizing that we should give considerable thought to that question:
Why?

It should be primary. We have the weight of the whole society pushing us along
like the current in a river. We have to elect whether it is right to swim with it
or against it. Why is everybody swimming that way? Do I want to swim that way
too? What is over there? Etc.

Our society obviously does not give this enough thought, because families are
collapsing left and right. 50% divorce rate or something like that. It is terrible.

Think of dating. It is coming out of the consumer mindset. "Try before
you buy."

It makes a mockery out of marriage really, because marriage is primarily about
sacrifice and compromise, isn’t it? It is about giving oneself to another, but
here in America, we go into the whole thing thinking "Well, who is going
to SATISFY ME? Who will meet MY CRITERIA?"

Well, who in the HELL are you? Did you just fall out of some cloud in the sky?
Are you some raindrop from heaven? Perfect on all sides?

We always try to pin our shortcomings on other people. In our society,
we make this very easy, very convenient.

People are not only NOT told that waiting to get married before having sex
is your best bet, but we are actually ENCOURAGED to try out multiple partners
prior to getting married from a very early age.

Thie hidden message is that marriage is all about sex and nothing more. It is all about gratification.

This undermines the principles of marriage directly. And we wonder why they
don’t last.

Besides, the fact remains that one doesn’t have to be rich in order to be happy.

Many people who live in mansions are actually homeless people. They don’t live
in their immediate surroundings, but in the streets of worry, fear, and desire.
This is clearly very sad.

But if you’re comfortable in your own skin, you have a home no matter where
you go. Even if all of your assets are wiped out in a natural disaster, you
are going to remain happy.

Even when death comes for you, you will be happy still, because you are not
holding onto anything, it can’t take anything away.

So, you may have the least, you may have the most, but so long as you are attached
you are poor, and so long as you are unattached, you are rich.

For all intents and purposes, the world could blow up tomorrow. Even if not,
you are going to die one day. So on the individual level, money is ultimately
worthless.

You come into the world naked, you go out just the same. I’m merely emphasizing
this point. It’s good to keep it in mind is all. It keeps things in their proper
perspective.

There are many poor people all around the world who often times don’t have enough to eat, yet they are very happy, close-knit units.

On the other hand, there are many rich people who are absolutely miserable. The husband cheats on the wife, the wife treats the husband like a money machine, the kids are treated as burdens, and so on.

For instance, I have a friend who babysits for a couple in DC. The kids get no attention from the parents whatsoever. They’re always running around doing a billion things to keep the money flowing.

Recently, the wife miscarried. The husband shows up without the wife saying, “I had some work to do.” And the wife calls saying something about how lucky she was to have her laptop computer around to pass the time.

WHAT?!

What good are big, beautiful houses to such broken families? Children becoming commodities and liabilities, possessions and pocketbook drainers. No more dancing parents. It’s all become financial. A big business deal.

Despicable!

No wonder children are thinking less and less about the precious gift of life. Contraception and so-called “safe sex” are running rampant in the streets. Abortions of convenience are becoming the norm. Morning after pill after morning after pill!

Why must an innocent suffer so that we can get what we want? Who is more innocent than an unborn child? A potential life?

Yet we don’t think in these terms. We have used our oh-so-big brains to explain away anything that stands in the way of personal gratification. The idea of money as happiness leads to such ridiculous behavior.

There is no end to pleasure seeking. There is always going to be more. There is always going to be somebody better than you. And then you are going to die. Then what?

If you haven’t loved anything other than your own comfort level all your life then your funeral is going to be a very cold one indeed. Your money isn’t going to love you back.

Money is impersonal. Duh?! It has no personality. It doesn’t care if you are a prostitute, a drug dealer, a hitman, a banker, or a preacher. It is all the same to money.

But to your mother, your brother, your sister, your son, your daughter… you relate to them on a personal level. Your unique aspects are taken into consideration. We affect one another in a profound way each and every moment of our lives.

Sometimes all it takes to transform a miserable person is a single moment of attention. I worked with a woman not too long ago that was looking sad, so we sat down and talked about mundane things. Months later I found that she was on her way up to jump off the roof.

Mundane things. But that is not what was important. If I had been chasing the dollars, what would’ve become of this woman?

You may not think one person is important in the grand scheme of things. Hundreds die in a moment you might say. That is true, but why should one die feeling abandoned? Leaping off a 12 story building? And for what?!

How many of us pass by that person on the street that is crying? How many pass by the drunk and call him a low-life, loser, unworthy of attention? Untouchable?

We have an unofficial caste system here, and it is almost ENTIRELY accepted. You probably haven’t even stopped to think about it — that you are also mistreating people on a daily basis.

You are so caught up in your own trivial pursuits that you fail to realize how many people around you are doing 1000% worse. You fail to encourage when you have the opportunity. You fail to listen when the other person is in desperate need of being heard.

Then again, passing by an elephant man, most of us would pity him. He is ugly after all. He is a repulsive creature. Poor chap must be very depressed. Yet you are the one walking to happy hour!

That man is quietly singing “It’s the most wonderful time of the year” and you’re heading off to get wasted.

But “Poor guy, miserable soul…” Words that are spoken only to please ourselves in some sick twisted fashion. We’re not happy, so we project this on the innocent elephant man. Who are we trying to convince? How is it being compassionate to label every character we meet in some way or another?

Maybe he’s not an elephant man. He’s just a bald guy, a fat dude. Maybe it’s a woman with a big mole. A dirty person. Somebody who kinda stinks. What? What do we really know about them? We haven’t taken any time to talk to them. We’re just following the herd. Copying the behaviors of everybody else.

What will so-and-so think of me if I stop to give this man a quarter? What if I stop and try to speak with this person on an individual level, as if they were an actual human being???

But who is to be blamed? After all, what choice do we have? We were brought up in a “civilized world.” We have fancy sciences, fancy clothes, fancy foods, fancy cars, fancy words, fancy everything!

We even think that the more money we have, the happier we are going to be. Yet where does that road end? When are we ever going to have enough? When will we feel secure?

If you found out tomorrow that you only had 24 hours to live, would you still think money is important? No, it is going to be revealed for what it is — a distraction!

You are going to see that those things you paid the least attention to were actually the most important. You are going to see this, but by then it’s going to be too late. No time machines for sale.

In fact, what we have now is all that is important. After all, when do you ever have anything aside from right now? You never have anything yesterday and you never have anything tomorrow.

Whenever you have something, it is right now. Not a moment before, not a moment after. Yesterday and tomorrow are just projections of the mind. Absolute fiction.

The most fundamental things are life and love. Without these two, what do we have? We have nothing.

So why would we want to rob anybody of these? If they are important to us, imagine how valuable they are to others, especially those who are yet to be born! (Some people say that life in potential is not life, yet, oddly enough, the same would not deny that potential energy is still energy.)

We should treat others as we would like to be treated, whether it is a life in potential or a life lying in the gutter covered in its own vomit.

WHATEVER YOU DO, PLEASE PUT MONEY IN ITS PLACE. Money was made for man, not man for money.

There is a great danger in money. Money and sex. They have there place, but they can put us in places we really don’t want to be in.

Moderation and balance are key. However, as some wise man said, there is no excess in love and charity.

Best wishes,
Denny

When we are faced with someone expecting us to be better than we are, we can do two things.

• We can turn on the victim mentality and accuse people of being elitist, or
• We can take a moment to evaluate what they’ve said and consider the possibility that they might be on to something.

a). All psych majors nickel and dime it for the ‘greater good,’ not for lack of empowerment

b). People who have fun are paying 20% APR or still getting an allowance from daddy.

c). I need to get married because I will never be able to afford property on my own outside of Fargo, MN and owning property is the first step towards any kind of freedom

d). If people from the ghetto don’t know something, then it is the fault of the educational system and we all need to slow down because being on the same page is ideal

e). Rich people are middle class people who just got lucky. They were in the right place at the right time and, bam, some money just fell into their lap.